Living In Lockdown With Flatmates

5 Ways To Keep The Peace

Living with family, friends or disgruntled flatmates can be testing at the best of times. Throw in a global pandemic with travel restrictions and you’ve got a recipe for tears, arguments, and a lot of passive aggressive notes on the fridge. 

Even if you have a great relationship with whomever you’re living with, being stuck inside with each other for a prolonged period of time is bound to lead to high tensions.

Trust us when we say, this is normal. Now that you’re spending each and every day together with not much else to focus on, your focus will shift to annoying habits and irritating mannerisms. 

(This writer knows this personally, as she writes this post sitting across the dining table from her flatmate and across the room from her partner.)

So we’ve come up with five ways you can keep the domestic peace in this uncertain period. 

No. 1: Establish Some Ground Rules

 A good way of ensuring some peace in your home is to set some ground rules. This is especially useful if you’re aware of your flatmates’ interest in playing loud drum n’ bass on the weekends. 

House rules provide a template for living, and consist of essential dos and don’ts that everyone has to follow. It’s best to sit down with whomever you’re living with and set some basic house rules. 

This can promote a better environment to live in as everyone is abiding by the same rules and knows what to expect.

No. 2: Talk About It

Now, we’re not claiming it’ll all be smooth sailing once you’ve Blu Tacked some house rules to the fridge. There will of course still be the occasional toilet roll related drama that needs resolving. 

The best way to resolve said conflict is to sit down with the perpetrator(s) and talk it out. Addressing concerns face to face can help to clear the air and allows both parties to express their reasoning, worries and solutions. 

It’s also important to note that attempting to solve things whilst you’re in a state of blistering rage is probably not the best solution. Instead, wait until you’ve cooled off before you begin talking. 

No. 3: Create A Rota 

If chores are the main cause of your distress, try creating a housework rota with tasks alternating for each house member. 

This kind of rota creates an equal divide of chores and ensures everyone is doing their bit and no one is doing more than they should be (often leading to pent up aggression which comes out in the form of screaming matches).

It also means less nagging as the rota itself becomes a constant reminder of their responsibilities.

As we’re spending more time at home, it’s also important to ensure your home is clean and tidy. A cleaning rota further helps with this! 

No.4: Provide A Helping Hand

It’s important to remember that no matter how annoying they are, your family members or flatmates are probably experiencing the same emotions as you are. 

Even if you hardly speak to each other or you aren’t their biggest fan, now is the time for a little bit of love thy neighbour. 

Maybe show a token of appreciation and clean up the extra plate in the sink? If you’re doing a run to the shops, maybe ask them if there’s any essential products they may need?

Helping one another can create a better environment and also means they’ll be more likely to help you in your times of need. 

No. 5: Keep To Yourself 

If your housemates are really that insufferable, the best thing to do is just go to the Winchester, have a nice cold pint and wait for this all to blow over. 

No, we’re only joking (please don’t leave your house). 

If you really don’t get along with your housemate and you just can’t seem to make it work… Sometimes, the best thing to do is keep your distance and avoid them as much as possible. 

Whilst this doesn’t resolve conflict it can help to keep any conflict at bay. Keep it to civil niceties and leave it at that. 

We hope we have helped provide some helpful information on how to deal with difficult flatmates and family members. One thing this writer can personally vouch for is that it definitely requires some effort on everyone’s part, but hopefully at the end of it you’re able to create a nice environment to get through this time together. 

Sajal Azam

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