These 3 Benefits Of Being Single Will Surprise You
“I spent decades looking for ‘the one’. Turns out it was me.”– Jon Cavanaugh, Singleton
If you’re 30 and single, the usual reaction from fellow ‘loved up’ 30 year old couples is a painful wince and an awkward side eye to their partner. Followed by a sincere yet sickening “Oh dear, not found The One yet?” And then you hear their painfully judging internal thoughts, “Poor Luke, he must be covered in scales, have a tail or/and is a total nutcase behind closed doors. Or maybe it’s the size of his nose that puts people off. Actually maybe he’s asexual.”
Well, we’ve got some news for those judgemental, smug couples… And it goes like this:
Being single has been proven to be far more beneficial than being in a relationship! Huzzah to single life.
And here are the 3 reasons why the single life will suit you more than ever before.
1. Sleeping alone = better quality sleep
A 2016 study by Revenson et al. explored the connection between anxiety, depression symptoms and sleep. In a sample of 543 middle-aged couples they found that their results indicated “that high levels of anxiety and depression had an influence on the partner’s sleep duration.” If their partner was suffering from a mental illness like depression or anxiety, then their sleep would suffer too. “For example, women with husbands showing high levels of depression had a shorter sleep duration one year later.” Although they also found that the husband counterpart suffered less from sleep deprivation if their wife was depressed or anxious.
If you’re anxious about your relationship, then that’s not a great thing either: “A reduced percentage of stage 3 and 4 sleep was found in anxiously attached women.” Stage 3 and 4 is the good stuff we vitally need!
What can we take from this study? Being single, sleeping alone and being the master of your mattress is quite possibly the greatest addition to single life.
2. You’ll form more, deeper friendships:
The video below describes the numerous studies which show that being single makes you more likely to have closer and deeper friendships, plus more of them. Think quantity and quality. Sonja Lyubomirsky, in her video Who Says You Need A Partner To Be Happy On Valentine’s Day? says that life-long single women “tend to have a lot of friends, a dozen or more really deep friendships.” She compares this to the small friendship groups of married women. Of course these findings aren’t applicable to everyone and it’s certainly worth noting that!
So does single life bring more freedom to an individual? This video would suggest so.
3. You’ll be happier than most married couples:
Marriage is usually a beautiful thing. And a wedding day is the happiest day of many peoples’ lives. Unless you’ve seen some of the hellish weddings on Bridezilla… Anyway, Bella DePaulo, an expert researcher in the world of singletons, found that people have an innate hierarchical opinion when asked to rate singles, married couples and cohabiting couples. And they look like this:
Rated high up = Married couples
Rated in the middle = Cohabiting couples
Rated low down = Single people
As you can see, people don’t rate singletons too highly. Maybe there’s a slight twinge of envy when it comes to the beauty of being single, such as the reasons described by DePaulo in her video:
- Single people are in charge of their own lives.
- Single people develop mastery (they do it all – no task splitting.)
- Single people can pursue what matters most to them.
- Lifelong single people experience more personal growth.
So on a day like July 4th, where independence is celebrated to commemorate the Declaration of Independence of the United States on July 4, 1776, why not take time to celebrate your own independence too?
Or if you’re happy in a relationship, perhaps today is the day you shift your view on singletons.